A Scorpio is one of the most complicated signs in the Zodiac. Born between October 23rd and November 21st, these children are intelligent, passionate but also possessive and sometimes vindictive. Here is what you can look forward to when raising a Scorpio child.
They Feel Intensely
The most noticeable aspect of a Scorpio is perhaps their intense natures and your child may be no different. A Scorpio child is likely to be passionate in their emotions and you may find your little one capable of loving and hating to the extreme. When getting along with a friend, they may be ready to give their all but after a fight they would want to have nothing to do with them ever again. This intensity of emotions also means that your child would detest doing anything by half measures – they would either have all of an experience or nothing of it. They would either have very thick buddies completely in sync with their emotions or completely ignore a classmate with whom they don’t get along. Likewise, when playing a game or solving a jigsaw puzzle, they are likely to pour their entire selves into the experience and most importantly would expect no less from their playmates. The high level of expectations that Scorpio children set for their loved ones makes them infamous as difficult people, as those who are incredibly hard to please.
Their Potential For Vindictiveness
Woe betide anyone who dares hurt a Scorpio. Like the Scorpion, whom individuals of this zodiac bear, they don’t take kindly to be being betrayed and if anyone happens to trample with their emotions or self-respect, they can be sure that the Scorpio will strike back with the deadly sting in its tail. This potential for revenge is seen even when they are young and you may be taken aback to find your Scorpio child going to great lengths plotting how to get back to someone who has hurt them. The best way to temper this unrelenting stance is to help them learn the personal joys of forgiveness. Teach them to let go of things that are beyond control of their little selves and while your Scorpio child might never really discard their vindictive streak, slowly but eventually they might learn the value of the inner peace that comes with being more accepting of human follies.
Highly Intelligent Beings
Scorpios are naturally blessed with a keen mind and high level of intelligence. Many Scorpio children give evidence of their acute mental faculties quite early and apart from staying ahead in class, they will surprise you with their ability to read people correctly. Scorpios have an uncanny knack of looking straight into the heart of people and learning the truth about them. So while raising your Scorpio child, it is always best to be honest with them rather than lying about what you really feel for and expect from your child. Even though it is neither possible nor desirable to confide every aspect of yourself in your child, be sure that what you do share is the truth. For as soon as your Scorpio child realizes that you have lied to them, it may be a very long time before they are able to trust you again.
Yearning For Deep Emotional Connection
The intense nature of their emotions makes Scorpios yearn for deep emotional connections with those they love best. Because of this inherent trait, it is best to adopt a hands-on approach while brining up Scorpio children. Talk to them openly and tell them your thoughts. They feel abandoned if you only offer them superficial conversation and light fluffy kind of family talk. Rather they need to be taken seriously; so ask them about their dreams and aspirations and be there to cheer and support them when they go out to compete. An important way of expressing this deep emotional connection for Scorpio children is with physical love. While adult Scorpios are famed for being passionate lovers, children too benefit from demonstrations of strong parental affection. So touch them with purpose and hug them with strength. For them a fleeting kiss or a momentary cuddle is just not enough. More than other kids, little Scorpios need to be told in definite and unambiguous terms about how special they are and how much they are loved. Scorpio children may seem very high-maintenance, but once they become confident of their parent’s love and support, they will flower into bright, happy adults.
Tendency To Be Secretive
Another consequence of the Scorpio’s intensely emotional nature is that they tend to be quite secretive, keeping their thoughts and feelings tightly coiled within them. This is actually a kind of defense mechanism, a way of protecting their emotional self by not allowing everyone into their inner world. In the case of older children you might have to keep track about what they are up to without appearing to be intrusive. So it is best to teach them the joys of open communication early on. Show by example how to develop effective communication with loved ones and how beneficial it is when trying to deeply connect with one another.
Need For Discipline
It is no secret that Scorpios are extremely strong willed and powerful by nature. They know exactly who they are and that most people, including their parents, might not have the strength, knowledge or the stamina to match their own. In such a situation you need to raise them by adopting a fine balance between discipline and understanding. If you are dictatorial and violent in your parenting style, they will learn that might is always right. On the other hand if you succumb before their will power or the brilliance of their personality, they will learn to be manipulative and scheming. Rather you need to let them know that while you love them unconditionally, you will also be firm about certain rules that will have to be followed by them like they are by everybody else in the family and larger society.
Time For Play
1. Scorpio children will be entertained for hours with a musical instrument or paint set.
2. “Dress-up” is a way for this child to play out their favorite character and show off.
3. They will pick up a new language quickly at a young age, introducing this potentially new skill as a game is fun for them.
4. Being a water sign, they might enjoy swimming lessons.
5. Some colorful building blocks or “Lego’s” is a great way for them to express their creativity.
6. They can be very content just ripping up old magazines or newspapers.
Tips For Parents With A Scorpio Child
1. They need attention and plenty of love, so please don’t ignore this child it will make them feel abandoned and shatter their ability to trust.
2. Listen to them intently when they speak, it is important to build their self-esteem, and you may actually learn something.
3. It is not advised to make fun of their dreams, no matter how outlandish they may seem to you.
4. Talk to them openly and honestly, tell them the truth. They can see right through “fluff” talk.
5. Scorpio children are strong-willed and discipline may be a challenge, but certainly achievable.
Scorpio children need to understand that rules to apply to them also; they must understand that they cannot do whatever they want whenever they desire.
They have a suspicious nature, and will be very particular about who they choose to be friends with.
The negative side of these children is their ability to become mean-spirited and vindictive. If a Scorpio child grows up in an atmosphere of negativity and anger, you will be unleashing a manipulative, selfish and vengeful adult on the world.
Scorpios have the ability to change the world by their stamina, compassion and brilliant minds, and it begins with a child being raised in a happy and healthy home.
Main care givers of Scorpio children must understand that these are high maintenance youngsters, at least until the time that they become self-reliant.
Scorpios are complex creatures and many times they are misunderstood. They are very in tone with the spirit world, and may be plagued with disturbing nightmares; don’t make fun of them. Listen carefully, try to understand what they “see”, and try to calm their fears. They will express their feelings in a safe environment; it helps to give them time and space to get their thoughts together to be able to verbalize how they feel.
If a Scorpio child feels threatened, they will become secretive as a form of protecting themselves. They need to be shown how to deal with negative emotions in a positive and productive manner.